Can You Have Too Much Quit?
My last post talked about the variety of ways you can get your daily dose of quit. I’m passionate about my personal quit (and by extension the quits of other people) but I realize that the “submerge yourself in quit” method that I use is certainly not for everyone.
I often see people go 100 day on the forums and then disappear. Are they cured or just done with support group? I can say with some level of certainty that they aren’t cured but that’s not to say they back away from the site and then go back to their old ways. For me coming to the site every day and posting roll helps to keep me quit… so I do it.
I’ll also hear “The only time I think about dip is when I’m on the site”. This invariably leads to people backing away from the support group that got them where they are. Again for me I’ll stick around the site, post roll and talk shit. It keeps me quit and it’s a small price to pay. Honestly I WANT to continue to think about dip. I want to be REMINDED how difficult my quit was… cause I never want to forget where I came from. I’m an addict and I know it. I’m still only $5 and a gas station away from a can/day habit. I’m never going back. Being on the site is a good way to help me remember this fact.
We recently created a KillTheCan.org Facebook page. I’ve heard from a couple of people that they don’t want to mix their “real life” with their “quit life”. My response to that would be this… for me they’re one and the same. If you don’t want to be reminded that’s completely fine and I certainly won’t judge. For me personally I NEED to be reminded to be successful. My wife, kids, family and friends know that I’m quit. My Facebook friends, blog friends, Twitter followers, etc. know that I’m quit and it’s something that I’m passionate about. Again, I recognize that this method isn’t for everyone but it’s kept me quit for over 3 13 years now and I’m going to stick with what got me here.
So to answer my own question. Can you have too much quit? For me the answer is “absolutely not”.
I’m only at 85 days quit. I’ve walked in to gas stations and thought, “How easy would it be for me to buy a can right now? The cashier doesn’t care if I’m quit or not. No body here cares if I’m quit or not. No one is going to run over and slap the can out of my hand.”
I tried to quit before. My way didn’t work. Posting roll is what reminds me to STAY quit.
One of the MOST helpful and liberating things for me was “coming out” about my addiction and abuse to people that never had a clue. Totally liberating and empowering, lifting a weight from my shoulders each time I spoke of it.